Let’s Talk Better is a campaign founded in February 2023 by Zeenat Noorani and Darren Weale aiming to encourage better conversations to improve people’s lives. It has a practical focus in the London borough of Bromley, and is creating a toolkit to inspire better conversations more widely.
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Dying Well Matters – Conversations That Count | Event 27th October 2026 – Bromley.
There are some conversations we spend our lives avoiding. Death is probably one of them.
We talk about births, weddings, new jobs, retirement, holidays and our plans for the future. We make lists, set goals and talk about the things we want to achieve. But when it comes to dying, many of us suddenly become uncomfortable.
We change the subject.
We tell ourselves there is plenty of time.
We reassure someone that they are doing well.
We say, “Let’s focus on the positive.”
Or perhaps we simply don’t know what to say. And sometimes, because we love someone so deeply, we believe that avoiding the conversation is a way of protecting them. But what if talking about dying isn’t about giving up hope?
What if it is actually about creating more choice, more dignity, more understanding, more connection – and more opportunity to make the most of the time we have?
That is at the heart of Dying Well Matters – Conversations That Count, a free community event being brought together by Bromley Dementia Friendly Community (BDFC) in partnership with Let’s Talk Better CIC (LTB CIC). And for me, this is about so much more than an event. It is about changing a conversation that too often remains unspoken.
Why is talking about dying so difficult?
Let’s be honest. Talking about death can feel frightening.
We may be frightened of upsetting someone.
We may be frightened of saying the wrong thing.
We may worry that talking about death will take away someone’s hope.
We may think:
“I don’t want to talk about it.”
“Let’s not talk about that now; there’s still plenty of time.”
“You’re doing so well; let’s just focus on the positive.”
“I don’t know what to say.”
“It’s best not to talk about death; it might upset them.”
Perhaps you’ve heard some of these. Perhaps you’ve said them. And the truth is, most of these words don’t come from a bad place. They usually come from love.
We say them because we care.
We say them because we are frightened.
We say them because we don’t want someone we love to suffer.
But sometimes, in trying to protect someone from a difficult conversation, we can unintentionally prevent them from telling us what they actually need.
Hospice UK highlights that people living with incurable illness may try to talk about their worries about the future, while family members or professionals can sometimes respond with reassurance such as “you’re doing so well” or “let’s focus on the positive.” Although well-intentioned, this can close down an opportunity for the person to express their fears and priorities. And that is something worth thinking about.
What if the conversation isn’t what causes the sadness?
What if the sadness is already there?
What if talking simply permits someone to share it?
“So, what do I actually say?” This is one of the biggest barriers. We want to have the conversation. We know it probably matters. But we don’t know where to begin and perhaps there isn’t a perfect sentence. Perhaps there doesn’t need to be.
You could simply ask:
“How are you feeling about what is happening?”
“Is there anything you’re worried about?”
“What is important to you right now?”
“Is there anything you want us to know?”
“How would you like us to support you?”
Or even:
“Would you like to talk about it?”
And if the answer is no? That’s okay.
You don’t have to force the conversation. You can simply leave the door open:
“That’s okay. We don’t have to talk about it now. But whenever you’re ready, I’m here.”
Sometimes that is enough.
Hospice UK also emphasises that conversations about dying don’t have to be one enormous, frightening discussion. They can happen gradually, at different stages of someone’s illness, guided by what the individual wants to know and discuss.
There isn’t one conversation. There can be many conversations. And sometimes the earlier we begin, the easier those conversations can become.
There is another incredibly important part of this conversation. We don’t all understand death in the same way. Our culture, faith, traditions, family experiences and personal beliefs can profoundly influence how we think about dying.
For some people, talking openly about death is a natural and important part of preparing for the future. For others, discussing death with someone who is seriously ill may feel inappropriate. Some families may believe that talking openly about dying could take away hope, cause distress or even be seen as tempting fate.
Some cultures and families may place great importance on collective decision-making. Others may place greater emphasis on an individual’s right to know and make their own choices. Faith can influence how someone understands illness, suffering, prayer, rituals, the afterlife, where they would like to be cared for, who should be involved and what happens after death. And then there are the questions that can become incredibly difficult within families:
Who should be told?
When should they be told?
Should the person who is dying know everything?
Who should make decisions?
Should children be involved?
Who should be present?
There is no single answer that works for everyone and that is precisely why we need to ask rather than assume.
Hospice UK’s work on culture and dying recognises that talking about death and dying can be challenging across different cultures and faiths.
We don’t need to know everything about every culture. We do need to be willing to listen.
Instead of assuming, we can ask:
“What is important to you and your family?”
“Are there any cultural or faith practices you would like us to understand?”
“Who would you like involved in decisions about your care?”
“Is there anything that would help you feel more comfortable or supported?”
These questions don’t tell someone what they should believe.
They give them the opportunity to tell us what they believe because when we understand each other better, we can support each other better by being more understanding and respectful of people’s boundaries and beliefs.
What does “dying well” actually mean?
Perhaps this is the biggest question of all because dying well will mean something different to every person.
For one person it may mean being at home.
For another, it may mean being surrounded by family.
It may mean having their favourite music playing.
Seeing their pet.
Celebrating one more birthday.
Being able to pray.
Having particular religious or cultural rituals respected.
Making peace with someone.
Writing letters to their children.
Having their symptoms and pain managed.
Being able to say goodbye.
Or simply being somewhere they feel safe and cared for.
There is no universal definition of a “good death”. It is personal, andthat means we cannot guess. We have to ask.
Hospice UK describes how, in palliative care, understanding what matters to an individual is central because everyone’s priorities and values are different. That is why conversations matter so much. They give someone the opportunity to say:
“This is what matters to me.” This gives the people around them the opportunity to say: “We hear you.” Palliative and end-of-life care isn’t just about the final days. There is also a common misconception that palliative care only begins when someone is very close to death. It doesn’t. Palliative care is about supporting people living with serious or life-limiting illness, including managing symptoms and providing emotional, psychological, social and spiritual support. It can also support families and carers.
That matters because living with a terminal or life-limiting illness can bring an enormous amount of uncertainty.
What is going to happen?
How much time do I have?
Will I be in pain?
Where will I be cared for?
Can I stay at home?
Who can help me?
What happens to my family?
What will happen when I’m no longer able to make decisions?
These aren’t easy questions. However, they are important ones. Talking about wishes and preferences in advance can help people communicate what matters to them and can help those close to them understand their wishes.
An advance statement, for example, can record someone’s wishes, beliefs and preferences for future care. Planning isn’t giving up. It can be an act of care and it can give people greater clarity and can reduce the burden on loved ones who may otherwise be left wondering, “What would Mum have wanted?”
When we talk about end-of-life care, it is very easy to focus entirely on the person who is ill, but there is often another person quietly living alongside the experience.
The partner. The daughter. The son. The sibling. The friend. The neighbour. The unpaid carer.
The person organising appointments, medication, meals, transport and practical arrangements while trying to hold themselves together emotionally. Carers can experience exhaustion, anxiety, sadness, anticipatory grief, frustration, guilt and uncertainty. And yet many will still say:
“I’m fine.” Because their focus is on the person they love. Guess what? Carers matter too. Their wellbeing matters.
They need somewhere to talk and process.
They need practical information.
They need to understand what is happening.
They need to know what support exists.
And they need permission and not to be afraid to say:
“I’m struggling.”
“I don’t know what to do.”
“I need help.”
“I’m frightened about what happens next.” This isn’t selfish. It is human.
In Bromley, Bromley Well provides free support for unpaid adult carers, including practical and emotional support, planning for the future, help through changes in caring circumstances, and support when the person being cared for moves into palliative care or dies. Sometimes the person caring for someone else needs caring for too.
And what happens when we don’t talk?
Silence can feel safer in the moment. However, it can also create a deep sense of loneliness.
A person may be frightened but feel unable to say so.
A family may have completely different assumptions about what someone wants.
A carer may feel overwhelmed but believe they have to cope alone.
Someone may want to talk about their faith or wishes but worry that no one wants to hear it or will understand. Someone may have questions about what is going to happen but be afraid to ask, and families can sometimes reach a crisis point before anyone has had the opportunity to say:
“What do you actually want?”
Hospice UK notes that avoiding honest conversations around death can increase feelings of distress, loneliness and grief. This doesn’t mean we should force conversations. It means we should make them possible.
Imagine a family where everyone feels able to say what matters.
Imagine a person living with a terminal illness being able to explain their wishes without feeling that they are upsetting everyone.
Imagine a carer being able to say they are exhausted without feeling guilty.
Imagine a healthcare professional asking about cultural and faith needs rather than making assumptions.
Imagine families knowing where to go for support before they reach crisis point.
Imagine someone saying: “I don’t know what to do.”
And someone being there to say: “You don’t have to work it out alone.”
That is what better conversations can create. Not necessarily different circumstances but a different experience of those circumstances. More understanding. More compassion. More choice. More connection. More confidence and sometimes, simply less fear.
As Let’s Talk Better CIC, our purpose is rooted in creating opportunities for people to talk about the things that matter, particularly the subjects that can be difficult, uncomfortable or surrounded by stigma.
Death and dying belong in that conversation too. This event isn’t about telling people how they should think about death. It isn’t about telling families what they should believe.
It isn’t about forcing anyone to have a conversation they aren’t ready for and it certainly isn’t about taking away hope. It is about creating a safe space to listen, learn, ask questions and connect.
It is about bringing people together around a subject that affects every one of us, while recognising that our experiences, cultures, faiths and beliefs may be very different.
It is about helping people understand the support that exists.
It is about giving carers an opportunity to hear from others and realise they aren’t alone.
It is about helping people living with life-limiting illness understand that their wishes matter.
It is about encouraging people to think about their own preferences before someone else has to make decisions on their behalf.
And it is about making conversations about death and dying less frightening and more human.
What can you gain from coming?
You might come because you are caring for someone.
You might come because someone you love has received a terminal diagnosis.
You might be supporting someone living with dementia.
You might work in health, social care or the community.
You might have experienced bereavement.
You might want to understand more about palliative and end-of-life care.
You might want to learn about support available locally.
Or perhaps you simply believe that we need to become better at talking about death.
Whatever brings you through the door, we hope you leave with something valuable.
Perhaps it will be knowledge.
Perhaps it will be reassurance.
Perhaps it will be a new connection.
Perhaps it will be a question you hadn’t thought of before.
Perhaps it will be the confidence to have a conversation you’ve been avoiding.
Or perhaps it will simply be the realisation: “I’m not the only one who finds this difficult.” That alone can be powerful.
You don’t have to get the words perfect. You don’t have to have the perfect words.
One of the most important things I want people to take away from this is this:
You don’t have to know exactly what to say.
You don’t have to fix someone’s fear.
You don’t have to have all the answers.
Sometimes your role is simply to listen. To sit beside someone. To let them cry. To allow silence.
To say: “Tell me more.”
Or: “I’m here.”
Or: “What matters most to you?” And if you don’t know what to say? You can say exactly that. “I don’t know what to say, but I want to listen.” That can be far more powerful than pretending everything is okay.
Let’s Talk Better – even when the conversation is difficult.
As The Clarity Coach, I often talk about the importance of clarity, slowing down, understanding what matters, asking better questions and having the courage to acknowledge what is true.
As CEO and co-founder of Let’s Talk Better CIC, I believe that clarity shouldn’t just be something we find individually.
It is something we can create together.
By talking. By listening. By asking better questions. By respecting different perspectives. By making space for culture, faith and tradition. By understanding that everyone has their own relationship with death. And by giving people permission to ask for help because asking for help isn’t failing. It is an act of strength.
So, can we start the conversation?
Maybe this blog has made you think about someone you love.
Maybe there is a conversation you’ve been avoiding.
Maybe you have been telling yourself: “There is plenty of time.”
Maybe you don’t know what to say.
Maybe your family or culture has taught you that talking about death isn’t something you do.
Maybe you are caring for someone and quietly struggling yourself. Or maybe you simply want to be better prepared for the future.
You don’t have to do everything today. Start with one question. One conversation. One phone call. One moment of honesty. “Can we talk?”
Sometimes the conversation we are most frightened to have becomes the conversation that brings the greatest clarity, connection and comfort,, and that is why Dying Well Matters because talking about dying isn’t about giving up on life. It is about helping people live with greater choice, dignity, understanding, connection and support – right through to the end.
A free community event brought to you by Bromley Dementia Friendly Community (BDFC) in partnership with Let’s Talk Better CIC.
Come and listen.
Come and learn.
Come with questions.
Come because you are caring for someone.
Come because you want to understand more.
Come because you want to think about your own wishes.
Come because you believe we can change the way we talk about death and dying.
Come and be part of changing the conversation.
Book your free place for Dying Well Matters
If you or someone you know needs support
If someone is living with a life-limiting or terminal illness, speaking with their GP, community/district nurse, hospital team or other healthcare professional is a good starting point for understanding what care and support may be available.
You don’t have to wait until things reach crisis point before asking for help.
For people living with dementia, their families, carers and those supporting them in the Bromley borough, Bromley Dementia Friendly Community (BDFC) is a valuable local source of information, connection and support.
Bromley Dementia Friendly Community – BDFC brings together local organisations, services, businesses and community groups to help make Bromley a more dementia-friendly place. Their network can help people discover local activities, services and organisations that can support people affected by dementia and their carers. (Bromley Dementia Friendly Community)
This is particularly relevant to conversations around dying well because dementia can bring its own challenges around communication, decision-making, advance care planning, changing needs and supporting families and carers.
Understanding someone’s wishes and what matters to them can become even more important when their ability to communicate those wishes may change over time.
Bromley Well – support and services – Bromley Well provides free support for unpaid adult carers, including practical and emotional support, help with planning for the future and support through changes in caring circumstances.
St Christopher’s Hospice – For people in the Bromley area, St Christopher’s Hospice provides specialist palliative and end-of-life care and support, including support for people living with serious illness and those close to them.
Hospice UK – Death and dying provides information and practical guidance about death, dying, grief and end-of-life care, including resources to help people begin conversations that may feel difficult.
Marie Curie – End of Life Care – provides information and support for people living with a terminal illness, their families and carers, including guidance around palliative and end-of-life care and planning ahead.
Please remember: asking for help is not a sign that you are failing. It is a sign that you recognise you don’t have to navigate something this important alone. Sometimes the first step is simply knowing whom to ask.
Let’s talk better. Let’s talk earlier. Let’s talk with compassion. Let’s talk about what matters. Because Dying Well Matters.
Author Zeenat Noorani – Clarity Consulting
Our latest event focusses on masks and masking. Something that is very common for people in everyday life, presenting the image needed to survive or succeed. But behind that image can be so much more. And masks can be hidden behind and cause harm. So, for some, it might be right to put down a mask.
Because when we unmask, we don’t just speak — we begin to heal. This is a space to drop the mask and speak what’s real.
Where honesty meets courage — and silence loses its power.
Each of us needs a deeper level of understanding of who we are, our values, our sense of belonging, and our boundaries, based on an awareness of how special we all are as individuals.
Join us, the Let’s Talk Better campaign (LTB), for an insightful event where we’ll create a safe space to explore:
This is not about oversharing.
It’s about honesty.
It’s about connection.
It’s about permitting ourselves to be real.
When was the last time you picked up a paintbrush, wrote a poem, or danced like no one was watching?
In today’s fast-paced, performance-driven society, self-expression often takes a back seat. Yet, creativity is a vital tool for improving mental health, emotional wellbeing, and resilience—for children, teenagers, and adults alike.
At Let’s Talk Better CIC, we believe that arts, crafts, and creative movement are not luxuries. They are essential for mental wellness. Whether you’re dealing with stress, anxiety, low mood, or social isolation, creative activities can offer powerful emotional support.
Creativity and Mental Health: More Than Just a Hobby
A landmark 2019 review by the WHO (World Health Organisation) analysed over 900 studies. It concluded that engaging with the arts can significantly improve mental health and emotional wellbeing.
Proven Benefits of the Creative Arts:
“Art is an effective tool for promoting good health and preventing illness.” – WHO
So why is creative wellbeing still undervalued in education, workplaces, and health systems?
What Counts as Creative Arts?
Creativity isn’t just about painting. The creative arts encompass a wide range of expressive outlets:
| Type of Creative Activity | Examples |
| 🎨 Visual Arts | Drawing, painting, sculpture, collage |
| ✂️ Crafts | Jewellery-making, origami, sewing, model-building |
| 🎭 Drama & Acting | Role-play, theatre, improvisation |
| 🎶 Music | Singing, songwriting, playing instruments |
| 📝 Creative Writing | Poetry, journaling, storytelling, script writing |
| 💃 Movement & Dance | Expressive dance, physical theatre, mindful movement |
| 📸 Photography & Digital Media | Film, zines, digital storytelling |
Each form allows individuals to process emotions and explore identity. They can express themselves in a way that traditional therapy or academics often can’t.
Creative Expression for All Ages and Backgrounds
Creativity supports mental health across all life stages:
At Let’s Talk Better, we’ve seen:
👉 Creative wellbeing is universal—accessible, empowering, and inclusive.
Reducing Mental Health Stigma Through Art
Stigma remains one of the biggest barriers to mental health support. Creativity offers a safe, stigma-free way to open conversations.
How Creativity Breaks Down Barriers:
🎭 Drama allows exploration of topics like anxiety, bullying, and gender identity in a safe, fictional context.
📝 Poetry and journaling give individuals a private way to think about trauma, grief, or mental health struggles.
🎶 Music bridges generational and cultural divides, promoting shared emotional understanding.
🎨 Art can express complex emotions that words cannot—offering a powerful outlet for healing.
Through art, we tell our stories. We make the invisible visible.
Not Every Mind is Academic—And That’s Okay
Society often prioritises academic success over creativity. But not every child—or adult—learns or expresses themselves the same way.
Some thrive in science and maths. Others shine in music or drama.
Yet even though the UK’s creative industries generate over £125 billion annually and support over 2.5 million jobs, creative subjects in schools are being cut back.
It’s time to nurture creative strengths with the same priority as literacy and numeracy—for both educational development and mental health.
Real-Life Impact: Creative Wellbeing in Action
At Let’s Talk Better CIC, we witness the impact of creative wellbeing every day:
Creativity doesn’t just entertain—it empowers, heals, and connects.
How You Can Promote Creative Wellbeing
Whether you’re a parent, teacher, youth worker, or mental health professional, here are ways to champion creative expression:
Take Action:
Final Thought
Could Creativity Be the Key to Emotional Healing?
Imagine if the next mental health breakthrough doesn’t happen in a clinic. It can happen in a paint-splattered studio, a journal page, or a shared dance.
Let’s stop asking “Are you academic?” and start asking:
“What’s your creative voice—and how can we help it thrive?”
Because everyone—regardless of age, background, or ability—deserves to be seen, heard, and supported. And creative wellbeing is just the bridge to better mental health for all.
📣 Join the Creative Wellbeing Movement
At Let’s Talk Better CIC, we deliver creative mental health workshops across schools, youth centres, and community spaces. Our sessions range from crafting for confidence to movement for emotional release, and journaling for wellbeing.
🎧 Listen to my podcast on Let’s Talk Clarity:
📌 Episode 154 “Nurturing Creativity – The Power of Arts & Crafts for Mental Wellbeing”
Available on YouTube
👉 Get in touch to bring our creative wellbeing programmes to your school, group, or organisation. letstalkbetter@yahoo.com
Together, let’s change the way we talk about mental health—through creativity, connection, and compassion.
On April 23rd, Let’s Talk Better CIC proudly hosted our latest 7th community event, Inclusive Minds—Breaking Barriers: Celebrating Neurodiversity and LGBTQ+. This powerful and inspiring gathering brought together young people, professionals, community members, and allies on a shared mission to break down stigma, amplify unheard voices, and build spaces where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued.
Why did we choose this topic?
More than ever, these two topics are becoming more prominent in the public eye and especially within workplace environments. Although things have been changing and moving forward, there is still so much to be done – including understanding more about how we as a society can help to support and adapt better for neurodivergent individuals. Personally, through my encounters of working with neurodivergent and LGBTQ+, and from speaking with others, there is still a huge gap, with so much still to be addressed. In a world that too often overlooks or misunderstands those who are neurodivergent or LGBTQ+, this event stood as a bold declaration that inclusion is not optional — it’s essential.
A Day of Empowerment, Expression, and Education
Held once again in a vibrant, welcoming community-focused space, Community House Bromley, which caters for many community events, as well as the home base for many charities. The theme “Breaking Barriers” was a direct call to challenge the societal, cultural, and systemic blocks that continue to marginalise these communities. More than just a conversation, this event was a movement in action that provided a platform for those to share their lived experiences; how they made their special differences inspire them to achieve their goals and dreams; to express how stigmas and taboos can hold people’s potential back. In addition, it opened up conversations about the pros and cons of what support systems are in or not in place. Of course, this day shone a light on celebrating the uniqueness and greatness of All Neurodivergent and the LGBTQ+.
On this day, we featured a rich programme of keynote speakers sharing powerful lived experiences of navigating the world as neurodivergent and/or LGBTQ+ individuals:
Chris Woodley, Writer and Actor, right here from the heart of Bromley, spoke about how he knew from a very early age that he was gay and later on being diagnosed neurodivergent. He was blessed with a supportive family, which made a huge difference for him growing up. He shared his struggles and how he used acting to become the incredible screenwriter he is today, giving him the power to shine!
Chris Woodley said, “As a dyslexic writer, returning to Bromley, where I was born and raised, to speak about the importance of LGBTQ+ voices and neurodivergent creatives was incredibly meaningful. Sharing my experiences growing up under Section 28 and talking with locals about my play, Next Lesson, felt especially powerful. It’s a play rooted in Bromley, yet it’s never been performed here, despite being staged at the Houses of Parliament, in the U.S., and Australia. That contrast struck a chord and reminded me how vital it is, now more than ever, that we listen to and support one another within our community. I’m incredibly grateful to Let’s Talk Better for getting the chance to share my story.”
Mercedes Yearly, Director of Quest Soul Theatre, runs numerous community initiatives in Bromley, from Wellbeing Through Drama to Creative Cafes. She spoke openly about her journey being ADHD, being diagnosed bi-polar at 44 and the impact of not knowing what was truly going on- finally made sense. Mercedes also shared how ‘Talking Therapy’ didn’t work for her, as she is someone who loves to talk and doesn’t stop, and this was not what she needed. However, she finally found ‘Art Therapy,’ her creative instrument that is helping her manage her emotional roller coaster and is now qualified as an Art Therapist. It was beautiful to see first-hand some of the intimate artwork she had created in her art therapy sessions! Hear this and through the work, Zeenat Noorani- The Clarity Coach does, she knows that the key to helping her clients is about finding the intervention and modality specific to the clients’ needs.
Mercedes commented, “Let’s Talk Better is really important”
Pleased to welcome, The Deputy Mayor of Bromley (2024-2025), Cllr Johnathan Andrew, and Chair of the Bromley All-Age Autism Board, shared some of his personal experiences, and with great support for LTB, “…is a particularly important initiative”
During the event, we all took part and immersed ourselves in deep, inspiring conversations through:
Each session was designed not only to inform but to inspire change, equipping attendees with practical tools and deeper understanding to take back into their communities.
Centring Youth Voices
At the heart of the event were the young people and how we as a society need to do more to catch the diagnosis earlier on, have the right intervention implemented and understand that not one size fits all. Like Mercedes’ story, imagine if she had been able to get this reading earlier in life, and the impact this would have made for her. Heartbreaking, and only a greater emphasis on educating the wider society, through honest dialogue, brave storytelling, and raw creativity, to lead the way in showing what true inclusion can look like. From a young autistic speaker advocating for more sensory-friendly learning environments to a trans teen passionately sharing why visibility and correct pronoun use matter, the message was loud and clear: young people are not just the future, they are the now.
A few words from our attendees:
Emma Mehuex- supporter from day one and a past speaker, “Lovely to see you today, and the event was excellent. It really got me thinking about a few things to do with neurodiversity. I am so looking forward to watching LTB grow now that it’s a CIC. “
Neil Peter, a regular attendee and past speaker of the LTB – “Working in suicide prevention and mental health, we know that neurodivergent people are at greater risk, so it’s great that community awareness is growing about the challenges they face and how we can support them better. Let Talk Better always explore these important topics, and it was inspiring to hear the personal stories of hope and recovery, particularly how those sharing their lived experience found the right pathways to support that were specific to them as individuals.”
Jacqui Weale, a proactive attendee and advocate for LTB – “All I can say is the speakers, Chris and Mercedes, it was for the audience a deeply personal story they both told of their journeys with being neurodiverse and part of the LGBTQ+ community. It spoke of pain and learning, but also of the richness of their lives because of it. It was a deeply personal, emotional, positive, insightful event for all who attended and for some, a better understanding of these communities. “
Sarah Marsh-Collings, a huge advocate and a past speaker of LTB, ”Once again, an enjoyable and worthwhile time spent at the LTB event. The first guest speaker, Chris Woodley, was entertaining and enlightening, and I made the most of his offer of a free copy of his first play, Lessons Learnt, to give to a friend’s teenage daughter – she was delighted. Unfortunately, I had to leave early, so I missed Mercedes Yearley’s talk, but feedback from other members was that it was insightful and enjoyable. Well done, Zeenat, on yet another successful event!”
Helen Marsh, Head of Communication and Engagement for South East London Care Systems and One Bromley – LTB, is “really valuable” as a safe space. Have a listen to the episode of the BromleyBuzz for context: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3xpP4wiGGHv8r9uXHYEf4t
LTB would like to thank Radfield Home Care, Directors Simi Ghuman and Chanice Baugh, for their ongoing support in the work we do and our mission to bring better understanding and change for the unspoken topics and barriers – Simi Ghuman, Director of Radfield ‘‘It was a great event!’’
What’s Next For LTB?
Inclusive Minds – Breaking Barriers was not a one-off moment. It was part of a broader movement driven by Let’s Talk Better CIC to ensure that every person, regardless of identity, neurotype, experience or background, can show up fully, without fear or shame.
We’re committed to continuing these conversations, growing our network, and delivering more spaces for healing, learning, and collective action.
To everyone who attended, participated, supported, and shared — thank you. Your presence and voice made this event the beautiful, bold, and brave space it became.
Together, we are breaking barriers, opening up delicate conversations, and building better futures.
Let’s keep the conversation going.
Let’s keep showing up.
Let’s Talk Better.
Words That Fuel Us
We were moved by the overwhelming positivity from attendees. A few quotes from past events:
“This was the first time I’ve felt truly safe and heard in a public event.”
“I learned more in one afternoon than years of reading – hearing real stories makes all the difference.”
“My child walked away feeling proud of who they are. That’s priceless.” ’‘LTB has given me the courage to step out of my fear and share my story, not just here but through my poetry and on social media, thank you.’’
These responses reaffirm what we believe: inclusive spaces change lives.
Special Acknowledgements:
Rotary Bromley Game-Changers, where we have had the pleasure of working alongside and the support of the Team Volunteers for all our events. Special thanks to Nolene Harris.
Community House Bromley, for providing such a wonderful location to hold our events – special thanks to Kerry Godwin, Business Support Officer, who has been instrumental in helping with bookings and setting up our events.
TESCOS Orpington and Bromley – Community Champions Jessica and Michael, who have been generous with their donations of refreshments, cakes, biscuits and snacks to keep our attendees energised with goodies!
Author: Zeenat Noorani – The Clarity Coach, Co-founder & Director of Let’s Talk Better CIC
Image caption: The butterfly represents transformation, hope & the Butterfly Project a movement where individuals draw butterflies on their arms to resist self-harm.
Every year on March 1st, Self-Injury Awareness Day (SIAD) serves as a global movement to shed light on the realities of self-harm, break the stigma surrounding it, and encourage open, compassionate conversations about mental health. Self-injury, also known as non-suicidal self-harm (NSSH) affects millions of people worldwide, yet it often remains misunderstood and shrouded in silence.
Understanding Self-Injury
Self-injury involves deliberately inflicting harm on oneself as a way to cope with emotional distress. Common methods include cutting, burning, scratching, or bruising. Contrary to common misconceptions, self-harm is not necessarily a suicide attempt; rather, it is often a way to express emotions, relieve tension, or regain a sense of control. However, those who self-harm may be at increased risk of suicidal thoughts and require emotional support and professional intervention.
Why Awareness Matters
Stigma and misunderstanding often prevent individuals from seeking the help they need. Self-Injury Awareness Day aims to:
How to Raise Awareness and Show Support
There are several ways to contribute to Self-Injury Awareness Day and support those affected:
Recognising the Signs of Self-Harm
If you’re worried about someone, look out for these signs:
Tips for Parents, Carers, and Educators
Supporting a child or young person struggling with self-harm can be challenging, but early intervention can make a significant difference. Here are some essential tips:
✅ Stay Calm & Open – Reacting with shock or anger can push the child away. Instead, create a safe, judgment-free space for them to talk.
✅ Listen Without Judgment – Encourage them to express their feelings without rushing to “fix” the problem.
✅ Use Positive Language – Avoid phrases like “Why are you doing this?” Instead, say “I’m here for you, and I want to help.”
✅ Encourage Professional Help – Suggest speaking to a school counsellor, GP, or mental health professional.
✅ Teach Healthy Coping Strategies – Help them explore alternative ways to express emotions, such as journaling, art, mindfulness, or exercise.
✅ Work With the School – If you’re an educator, liaise with pastoral care or safeguarding teams to ensure the right support is in place.
A Message of Hope
“I understand how difficult this can be—I’ve been there myself, and I know others who have struggled with self-harm. But please know that healing is possible, and there is hope for a future where self-pain is no longer the answer.”
Self-Injury Awareness Day is not just about acknowledging the issue—it’s about breaking the silence, fostering understanding, and offering hope. If you or someone you know is struggling, remember that help is available, you are not alone, and healing is possible.
By raising awareness, supporting open conversations, and providing the right resources, we can work together to reduce stigma, promote mental wellbeing, and help those affected find healthier ways to cope.
UK Helplines and Resources
If you or someone you know is struggling with self-harm, there are dedicated support services available:
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Author: Zeenat Noorani -The Clarity Coach I Director & Co-founder Let’s Talk Better C.I.C
Every year, Time To Talk Day reminds us of the importance of open, honest conversations about mental health. The 6th of February is a day dedicated to breaking the stigma. It fosters understanding and empowers individuals to share their stories. People are also encouraged to listen to others.
Time To Talk Day was first launched in 2014. Mind and Rethink Mental Illness partnered with the Time to Change campaign. The goal was simple yet profound: to create a space where conversations about mental health are normalised and encouraged. By doing so, we can reduce the stigma and to ensure no one feels alone in their struggles.
Research consistently highlights the need for such initiatives. According to the Mental Health Foundation, 1 in 6 adults experiences a common mental health problem each week in England. YoungMinds reports that 1 in 6 children aged 5-16 has a probable mental health condition. These statistics underline the importance of creating environments where people feel safe to talk and seek support.
Mental health can affect every aspect of our lives. It influences our relationships and productivity. It also impacts our physical health and overall well-being. Time To Talk reminds us that mental health is just as important as physical health. Open conversations can:
Want to support someone’s mental health or start your own journey toward better mental well-being? Here are some strategies:
As part of my mission to make a difference, Let’s Talk Better C.I.C. (LTB) a community interest company dedicated to improving mental health and well-being for children, young people, and adults. Through initiatives like the Let’s Talk Better campaign, we address key issues including anxiety, body image, identity, self-worth and suicide. We also focus on LGBTQ+, Neurodiversity, bullying, relationships, and many more important topics.
By providing workshops, resources, and open forums, Let’s Talk Better aims to:
We’re proud to collaborate with schools, parents, and mental health professionals to inspire a healthier, more supportive world.
Mental health struggles are widespread and often underestimated. Here are some eye-opening statistics:
These figures highlight the urgency of collective action to support mental well-being.
If you or someone you know is struggling, remember that help is available. Here are some valuable resources:
Time To Talk Day is an opportunity for all of us to reflect on the power of talking and listening. Let’s consciously check in with ourselves and our loved ones. We should start those important conversations. We need to create a culture where everyone feels seen and heard.
If you’re struggling, please don’t hesitate to reach out. Whether it’s to a friend, family member, professional, or organisations like Let’s Talk Better C.I.C. or The Clarity Coach – Zeenat Noorani, help is always within reach.
Let’s talk better, together. Let’s create a world where difficult conversations are prioritised. These conversations become easier. No one should feel alone in their journey.
Call to Action: If you want to collaborate, seek support, or learn more about Let’s Talk Better, please reach out. Feel free to contact me – The Clarity Coach. / Director and Co-founder of LTB.
Together, we can make a difference.
Author: Zeenat Noorani
Whoop! 🙌 Whoop! 🙌 Great News! Join me in putting your hands together in celebrating, Lets Talk Better (LTB), as it is now a C.I.C – Community Interest Company 🌟 🌟 🌟
I would first, like to thank Gary Parker for his support and guidance in the application process.
The work we do at LTB is growing from strength to strength. We are breaking down stigmas and taboos. We also support the community with mental health and wellbeing. Our efforts inspire better conversations. They create positive change in confidence, self-awareness, and more.
We have been blessed by the support we have received. The amazing speakers, guests, and ongoing attendees have been part of the events.
Without your support, some of the great things I have achieved have not been done alone. Thank you. Together we are stronger in making changes for ourselves and those around us.
🤩 Here’s to another great year… Watch this space…
🎉24th of February 2025, Let’s Talk Better C.I.C. celebrates its 2nd Anniversary! 🎉
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Author: Zeenat Noorani
Breaking the Chains of Body Image, Stigmas, and the Path to Embracing Ourselves
The Let’s Talk Better Campaign (LTB) held its quarterly event on November 29th, 2024, on the topic of Body Image – Embrace Yourself, Talking Stigmas & Taboos. During our recent Let’s Talk Better event, we explored some of the challenges we face, especially the younger generation and how we can foster a healthier relationship with our bodies. The discussion shed light on the staggering statistics, reasons behind the rising concerns, and actionable steps to address this growing issue.
Body image has long been a complex and deeply personal aspect of our identity, yet it has become increasingly entangled with societal pressures, unrealistic standards, and taboos that can take a toll on our mental health and wellbeing.
As I write this, I reflect on my own experience of facing the challenges of body image during my career as a professional figure skater. Looking back, this began way back during my primary school days and carried on into my early 40s until one day; I decided to take control and not allow external pressures to impact my decisions and the way I live my life. Ten years on, I am in a better place, though at times, it can be difficult as I know I am dealing with menopause and its challenges. The bonus is, that I now have a different mindset, a set of tools and strategies that help me keep a perspective of what is real. With this, I have the qualifications and a true passion to help support young people to better educate and understand themselves and their bodies to help prevent them from falling prey to societal expectations.
Let’s look at the Current Landscape with Body Image and Young People
Recent studies paint a concerning picture:
These statistics underline the urgency of addressing the body image crisis, particularly as it continues to escalate among younger generations.
So, Why are Concerns about Body Image increasing?
Several factors contribute to the rise in body image concerns:
What are the impacts of this on Mental Health and Wellbeing?
Body image issues are more than skin deep. They can:
Insights from the Embrace Your Body Event
Our Let’s Talk Better campaign brought together young people, parents, and experts to discuss how we can challenge stigmas and embrace body diversity. Key takeaways included:
I would like to share some tips for Preventing Body Image Issues
To combat these challenges, we must foster environments where young people feel empowered to embrace their uniqueness. Here are actionable steps:
My final message to you: A Path Toward Acceptance
Body image will always be a part of how we see ourselves, but it doesn’t have to define our worth. By breaking stigmas, challenging societal norms, and prioritising mental health, we can empower young people to build a healthier, more compassionate relationship with their bodies.
Together, let’s embrace the message shared at our event: ”Every single body is a beautiful body.”
How are you fostering body positivity in your community? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.
Let’s keep the conversation going!
Author Zeenat Noorani – The Clarity Coach
A worrisome Reality with Eco-anxiety, a growing mental health challenge, that is increasingly affecting young people worldwide.
Did you know?
A 2024 study by Action for Conservation revealed that 64% of children aged 11-16 in the UK experience mental health symptoms linked to eco-anxiety, with 23% reporting feelings of fear, stress, or anger at least once a week. Globally, a 2021 survey found that 72% of 16-25-year-olds are very or extremely worried about climate change, with 45% reporting that eco-anxiety affects their daily lives.
This anxiety often manifests as fear, helplessness, or mistrust in government responses, leaving many young people questioning their future. However, eco-anxiety can be addressed and even transformed into empowerment through emotional support, action-oriented involvement, and resilience-building strategies.
Understanding Eco-Anxiety
What is Eco-Anxiety?
Eco-anxiety refers to feelings of worry, fear, and helplessness about climate change and environmental degradation. It’s especially prevalent among young people, who are exposed to constant media coverage of climate crises, including biodiversity loss, extreme weather, and systemic inaction. Many young people express feelings of mistrust toward governments and corporations, citing insufficient action as a key driver of their anxiety.
The Emotional Toll on Young People
Young people frequently report Symptoms including low mood, disrupted sleep, feelings of anger or panic, and even significant life decisions like whether to have children being influenced by fears about the planet’s future. Many question life decisions, such as having children, due to fears about the Earth’s sustainability.
Alarmingly, according to a 2024 study, 43% of children report spending less than 10 minutes outdoors daily, which exacerbates these symptoms by weakening their connection to nature—a key component in mitigating anxiety.
Why Are Young People Particularly Affected? Key Contributors to Eco-Anxiety
Example: Platforms like TikTok and Instagram often share unfiltered content showing the direct effects of environmental disasters, such as melting glaciers or deforestation. While this raises awareness, it also amplifies anxiety.
Fact: Over 71% of UK youth feel the government isn’t doing enough to combat climate change, deepening their sense of mistrust and despair.
Fact: A study found that spending as little as 20 minutes in green spaces can significantly lower stress hormone levels, but many young people are missing out on these benefits.
Connecting with Nature: A child walking hand-in-hand with a parent through a serene forest, bathed in sunlight, evoking mindfulness and a deep bond with the natural world.
How Parents Can Help Address Eco-Anxiety
Parents have a critical role in supporting their children, fostering resilience, and empowering them to act.
1. Create Open Conversations
Why It Matters: Children and young people often feel isolated in their worries about the environment. Validating their feelings and creating safe spaces for discussion can help them process their emotions.
How to help:
Example: Weekly dinner topic on talks to discuss positive environmental changes they could make together, such as reducing waste or conserving water.
2. Encourage Small Meaningful Actions and Responsibilities
Why It Matters: Taking small, meaningful actions helps children feel a sense of control over environmental challenges.
How to help:
Example: A family started a composting project, allowing children to track waste reduction and learn about the cycle of decomposition.
One family started a “low-waste week” challenge, reducing plastic use and documenting their efforts on a family blog to inspire others.
3. Foster Connection with Nature
Why It Matters: Time outdoors reduces stress, improves mental well-being, and builds a deeper appreciation for the environment.
What Adults Can Do:
Fact: Research by YouGov shows that 86% of people report improved mental well-being after spending time outdoors.
4. Balance the Narrative with Positive Stories
Why It Matters: Exposure to alarming climate news can amplify anxiety, but a balance of positive stories inspires hope and resilience. Progress helps children see that solutions exist and that they can contribute meaningfully.
What Adults Can Do:
Example: A parent shared stories of community-led river clean-ups that revived local ecosystems, showing tangible results of collective action.
5. Teach Coping Mechanisms
Why It Matters: Equipping children with tools to manage their anxiety builds resilience and improves overall mental health.
How to Help:
Example: A parent taught their child the “5-4-3-2-1” grounding exercise, helping them stay present during moments of overwhelming fear.
6. Model Sustainable Behaviours at Home
Why It Matters: Children learn by example, and seeing their parents take sustainable actions reinforces the importance of personal responsibility and community impact which reinforces environment-positive habits.
How to help:
Example: A family reduced their plastic use by switching to refillable containers, involving their children in the process to understand its benefits.
7. Advocate for Systemic Change Together
Why It Matters: Empowering children to engage in activism shows them they can influence broader systems, reducing feelings of powerlessness.
How to Help:
Example: A family partnered with a local environmental group to organize a tree-planting event, teaching their children the importance of community involvement.
Balancing Urban Life and Sustainability: A young person sitting on a city rooftop, gazing at a landscape that integrates renewable energy sources like wind turbines and solar panels, reflecting optimism and innovation.
Turning Eco-Anxiety into Empowerment
Eco-anxiety doesn’t have to be debilitating. With the right support, it can become a motivating force for action and resilience.
What Else Can Help?
Building Resilience and Empowerment
Eco-anxiety isn’t just a challenge; it’s an opportunity to teach young people resilience, adaptability, and optimism. Parents can play a pivotal role by:
In Conclusion: A Collaborative Approach
Parents, educators, professional experts and mental health professionals can help turn eco-anxiety into empowerment by fostering open conversations, encouraging actionable steps, and teaching coping strategies. Supporting young people through eco-anxiety is not just about addressing their fears – it’s about equipping them with the confidence and skills to build a more sustainable and hopeful future.
My Final Thought
Creating a supportive environment, empowering young people with actionable tools, and modelling sustainable behaviour, can turn eco-anxiety into a source of strength.
Eco-anxiety is a natural response to global environmental crises. With, the right support, it can be transformed into motivation, activism, and a lasting commitment to a sustainable future. Today’s young people can transform their anxiety into action, compassion, and optimism, becoming the resilient leaders the world needs.
Together, we can help the next generation develop the confidence and resilience needed to face climate challenges with hope and determination.
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By Zeenat Noorani – The Clarity Coach
The past month has been a whirlwind of ups and downs—illness, losing clients, finding new ones, and then, as if that wasn’t enough, a robbery. Never had I imagined this to happen to me, living in a flat on the 3rd floor. Just as things seemed to settle, another challenge emerged. One thing after another, these events have left me feeling vulnerable and mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted.
I know that there have been many close friends of mine who are struggling with the day-to-day challenges and what life has thrown us this year in 2024, with so many changes… However, experiencing a burglary has taken me to breaking point, shaking my confidence in my own space and affecting my mental health in ways I hadn’t anticipated. Even as a Coach who supports people with the stresses and challenges of life, this can impact us too. However, the beauty is that I do have tools and strategies at hand, and if I didn’t, I fear to think what the outcome could have been.
For a single woman living alone, the emotional toll of being burgled can be especially profound. The feelings of fear, anger, and vulnerability linger long after the event, impacting day-to-day life, whether you’re indoors worrying about safety or outside, feeling unsettled about what awaits you at home.
Experiencing a burglary can shake the very foundation of one’s sense of security, leaving a lasting impact on mental health and confidence. For me, in particular, being burgled feels like a personal violation, with emotional aftershocks rippling into everyday life and changing how I feel about my home, my community, and my own resilience.
Yes, there is a financial implication, but more so for me, it was the sentimental value of everything that was stolen from the day I came into this world. To look on the brighter side there are the memories I hold, unless I lose my mind… who knows?
From Fear to Vulnerability
The initial flood of emotions after a burglary can be overwhelming. It begins with shock, disbelief, and anger but quickly morphs into a profound sense of vulnerability. Living alone, there is often no one else to process these emotions with or to offer immediate reassurance. Knowing that someone has violated your space, touched your belongings, and invaded your privacy brings a unique kind of distress. My home, once my sanctuary, suddenly felt foreign—no longer a place of comfort but a reminder of what I’d lost.
Living in Fear – My Anxiety at Home and Away
Burglary doesn’t just leave scars on your home; it imprints itself on your psyche. Being at home can feel like an exercise in tension, as every small noise prompts a startle, and every creak suggests danger. The fear doesn’t dissipate when you leave the house, either. Instead, it transforms into anxiety about leaving your space unguarded, creating a subconscious need to return, to make sure everything is as you left it.
This anxiety compounds when layered over other traumatic experiences. Last year, I found myself in the middle of a shooting in Orpington, a distressing experience that left me hyper-aware of potential dangers in public spaces. With the burglary added to this history, my fear of being unsafe at home and in public settings intensified. The weight of these combined experiences has left me feeling as though I am constantly on edge, waiting for the next threat to arise.
The Need to Rebuild Confidence and Security After Trauma
Taking control back is so important, and only I can do that! Despite these challenges, finding a way back to a sense of security and confidence is essential. I want to share with you some of the steps I’m taking to take control back and to feel empowered. I hope this may help anyone who’s experienced a similar trauma:
Finding Empowerment in the Process
Going through a burglary or any distressing experience can be incredibly unsettling, yet it’s possible to emerge with a renewed sense of strength and awareness. Yes, at this moment and time, as it is still so fresh, I keep going back to the thought that comforts me and who many have told me, ‘Zee at least you were not there…’
Each challenge faced and overcome is a testament to our courage and resilience. While it may take time to feel completely secure again, each small step forward is a reminder that it is possible to rebuild both peace of mind and confidence, one day at a time.
Life’s challenges may sometimes feel relentless, but every difficult experience has a silver lining and also revealed to me an unexpected resilience, the will to protect my well-being, and the determination to make my space safe once again.
A huge hug of appreciation and thanks to those who have supported me through this, my family and friends.
Author Zeenat Noorani – The Clarity Coach
Let's Talk Better C.I.C 